I have always been a Christian, but for years I have been less invested in my faith. It was something I tried deepening at times, just to let it slide again the moment I become busy or overwhelmed. In spite of this, I used to joke that I was God’s favourite. There has been this thread of grace that you can trace throughout my life.
I have been in my fair share of sticky situations, and have experienced trauma that ranges from interpersonal relationships, violence, rejection and more. Throughout these experiences, I have always felt God’s presence, but more as a bystander than as an active participant.
Then my marriage ended, and within that destruction, I met God.
You would think that the crumbling of a marriage, one of the most sacred institutions in the Bible, would drive me further away from God. But if there is one thing that I have learned in this time is it that God can be found in the eye of the storm. When we feel powerless, not enough, broken, God is at His best. Only when we have reached the end of our strength when we have nothing left in us to fight, can we stop fighting Him.
When we give over, He can start fighting for us. 2 Corinthians 12:9 says that His power is strongest when you are weak. And I have lived this.
God does not forsake the divorced. He is right there beside the single mom. No matter how or why you became a single mama – whether by divorce, death or another choice. He is mother to the motherless and father to the fatherless (Psalm 68:5-6) and will help you be that too. He gathers His people and keeps them close to His heart, there where they can hear His heartbeat (Isaiah 40:11).
I have learned that the Bible gives so much reassurance and strength to us, even when we feel like failures because we now have to set out on this single parenting journey. Where is God in single parenthood? Right beside you, holding your hand. With Him, even when you are single parenting, you are not doing it alone.