I wish to share with you the 5 things I have realised are key to me feeling like I am handling myself and my kids successfully. Use them, don’t use them, either way, I am feeling great that I was able to share!
Sometimes when we are parenting, it feels like we cannot find the right words, or what we want to say just doesn’t come out right. In these instances, it is great to have a list of things to say to take the guessing and trying out of the conversation.
Why meal planning is a crucial part of how I survive on a single income, being a single mom of 2
Kids are resilient, and although I do not wish this on any child, I can say that with the right support, patience and a lot of empathy, they will get through this. It is your responsibility as a parent to make sure that they not only survive, but thrive, no matter the circumstances. Help your kids to cope with the separation, help them be ok afterwards.
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. This I have known for ages, sure you have also come upon this nugget. Yet we still feel incapable of reaching out and admitting that we, maybe, cannot do this alone. Why is it that we easily offer and give help to others, but asking for ourselves seem to be the taboo? And why do we see ourselves as less capable when asking?
To say that I have been going through a hard season would be an understatement. Having no previous first-hand experience with my marriage crumbling and dissolving, I have not known what to expect, at all. I remember vaguely standing on the sidelines when my parents’ marriage ended, but that feels like asking someone to do open-heart surgery when all they have ever done is watched a video of the procedure taking place.
Being a PARENT can be overwhelming. Taking the responsibility of another tiny life on your shoulders can not NOT be overwhelming, right? Now try to do that as a solo parent – being the only one responsible for the day-to-day safety, security, happiness, and health of those tiny human beings. In that case, the word OVERWHELM doesn’t even start to describe how you feel.
It is my heart’s desire that I will raise kids who are so kind that the world will never be able to pull them down. And I think so far I am succeeding.
Mom guilt? We need to stop. We have nothing to feel guilty about, even if mainstream and social media want to convince you otherwise. We are raising happy, kind and content kids, and that is the ultimate goal!
