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Self-acceptance is to simplify your idea of yourself

Self-acceptance is much more than self-confidence or self-esteem. It stretches further than body positivity, so far that it touches on the divine. Because only when we truly accept ourselves, the good, the bad and the ugly, are we freeing ourselves to become what we were born to be. Only then can we grow into the divine creatures we were envisioned to become.

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Why perfection increases anxiety, making it the number one enemy of a simple and satisfying life

I am by nature an anxious person. I come from a long line of worriers, and we tend to blow things out of proportion and then freak out because we cannot handle it. Yeah I know, and I am human-enough to admit it. I feel sorry for my husband, and try to hide it from my kids as I do not want to intentionally pass this on to them. I also have insignificant things that bother me, so badly that I cannot really function or pay attention to anything else until it has been fixed. For example, the volume of the radio or television need to be at specific intervals. You cannot have the volume on 11 or 9, it needs to be on 8 or 12 or 15. I don’t care if you cannot hear or if it is too loud, that is where it needs to be. Open cupboard doors. Just close them! Want me off the rails? Have a door bang, or a tap drip, or a window repeatedly creak. You will drive me nuts. I will not label myself as having an anxiety disorder, merely out of fear that the general public will associate people with a few quirks like mine with a severe mental disorder. Yes I do have mild anxiety, but there are people out there who desperately need your help and support, and they need the actual attention.

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Simplify your life: Self-care is essential to lead a simple life [Habits of well-being]

Society puts so much pressure on us to succeed. Add to that obsessive, competitive personalities and additional pressure to be the best mother/daughter/partner/businesswomen/friend/etc. and you have a recipe for disaster. So often we don’t even notice that we are running at full steam, without ever taking a break to recharge. From the outside it looks as if we have it all together – a thriving career, obedient well-rounded kids, a loving relationship, a clean house. But on the inside we are slowly dying of exhaustion. Of course, most of the goals that we are killing ourselves to meet were set by us ourselves, and only we will know if we do not reach them. But still, we allow the pressure to steal our time. Time that is also meant to be enough to take care of ourselves.

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Simplify your life - Natural pain relief that are worth looking into - I don't mind being the guinea pig! [not a doctor!]

I was diagnosed with arthritis about 6 months ago. My preliminary tests indicated Rheumatoid, but my rheumatologist was not entirely convinced. Maybe osteo, maybe oligo, or any of the other arthritis variations. He also considered fibromyalgia, but before he could make a definite diagnosis I stopped going to him. I was tired of being prodded and poked and just getting more and more pills while nothing else really changed. That really riled me - why is healthcare only defined by the medication that you can be prescribed? Why do our medical practitioners (most of them in any case) not consider other factors? And then recommend a holistic approach? Do the medical community not understand that inflammation is caused by something that irritates the immune system, and that SOMETHING can be anything from physical activity to food allergens.

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Simplify your life - Anxiety and perfection - Why the one exaggerates the other, and how perfection is the enemy of progress [Habits of well-being]

The dictionary defines perfection as: “the action or process of improving something until it is faultless”. What the dictionary doesn’t add is that perfection, or the search for perfection, can lead to anxiety and even depression.

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Simplify your life - Natural treatment: Children with asthma - sucking the breath out of your childhood

A1 never gave us even a slight worry that she might have asthma. No niggling cough or wheezing chest. With A2 this was another story. She got chest infections easily. Her coughing never stopped, most days getting so bad that she would vomit. Her chest was graggy and made a faint wheeze when she breathed. She had her first proper attack just shy of 18months. Shortly after another. And another.  We ended up in ER with her with blood oxygen levels of 72 where it is supposed to be 95. After this episode, her paediatrician "diagnosed" her. I say "diagnosed" because before the age of 5 any medical opinion is given solely on the grounds of observation and medical history. After 5, or as soon as the child can follow more complex instructions, a breathing test can be done for a formal diagnosis.

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